Dimples on the Edge

Take your time

I just got off the phone with a man whose mother passed away. We were speaking to one another because I had requested his services for an HVAC consultation last week and I was following up since I hadn’t received an estimate yet

He shared that his mother had passed away last Friday, after about three weeks in the hospital, and that the funeral was this upcoming Friday, but that he would get to my HVAC either today or tomorrow

Take your time, I said. There is no rush on my end and I would much rather you take the time to be with your family and loved ones, processing, grieving, and being in community with one another

Staying home is worse, he said. He would much rather be doing something, as his family came from a line of workers and they weren’t ones to waste time, not even his mother. She wouldn’t want him staying in and doing “nothing”

It’s not nothing to grieve, to be with your family, to honor the memory of a beloved lost. It’s not nothing to need to pause, to slow down, to rest & remember

Death is a part of life, he said. That is true. And as such, we should take the time to stop and acknowledge it, to ensure that our emotions for the loved one that is no longer with us are given the time to be felt

Collectively, we rush, always on the go, always advancing, always moving. Nothing can stop us, not even death

When we die, all we’ll remember is a blur

Take your time